Reluctant Advice on Grief

After my daughter died in 2005, I was angry at other people a lot. Why were they so bad at allowing me to grieve? Most of what they said and did seemed patently self-protective, reassuring themselves that “this won’t happen to me.” They told me inspirational stories about people who changed their lives after a tragedy (because it was their fault) or they asked me invasive questions that seemed to be designed to help them see how I’d made choices they wouldn’t…