If It’s Your Fault, I Don’t Have to Change
I spent some time replaying a conversation in my head with some more orthodox family members, conjuring up as I went my past self, who was also very orthodox. I’ve done this several times and have found it extremely useful for getting at both what I’m afraid of in my attempts to forge new relationships with people I care about and for revealing why people believe what they do.
In this case, I was imagining what my orthodox family members and friends thought about my decision to stop attending church this year. I swear I could hear their real voices speak this almost at the very moment.